I’m a 33, nearly 34-year-old wife and mother. My oldest just turned 6, and his younger brother is 4. I would say the hardest part of being a stay at home mom and wife to a hard-working man, is the day-to-day, hour to hour, self-motivated decisions and how they affect our well-being and the atmospheres of our homes.
There are days that I just want to give housework and time commitments the bird and read a book all day. Some days I have done that. There are other days that I’m on top of my game and feel like I completed my mission(s) for the day. Most days I choose to have a right attitude and do the things I know pay off in the long haul, as well as the short-haul, and I have found work for me.
1. Spending time with God. I am the first to admit I don’t do this nearly enough. I’m not sure I could ever spend enough time with the peacemaker of my life and the lover of my soul. He is my breath and my mind-renewer . . . what is life without HIM? I am beyond grateful for HIS forgiveness, granted me through HIS sacrifice on the cross and the resurrection. And I’m beyond grateful for HIS daily walking out of life with me. I don’t deserve HIM, but I accept that gift without hesitation!
Worshipping is the best way I know to communicate my love and adoration to HIM . . . get some good worship CD’s, priceless.
Reading the Bible and digesting HIS Word are the best ways I know to grow in truth. I picture a seedling plant, probably because I have seedlings nearly ready for outside transplanting, that have to be rotated or they grow crooked, towards the source of light. Keep that light source straight above and you’ll grow straight.
2. Having a gracious attitude toward my spouse. Yep, he’s flawed. Some things he does drive me nuts . . . why can’t he read my mind again? But there are so many good-as-gold things about J’s heart and motives in life that I cherish. And I was forgiven (reference #1) of every crappy thing I ever did in life . . . I think I’ll just pass that right along to the man I chose to love the rest of my life. Having a right relationship with J, which includes standing up for what I believe but giving it to God at the same time, is essential to a peaceful atmosphere in my home and heart.
3. Exercise and eating right. This culture harps on this so much that I am shy of bringing it up. But it affects my moods and attitude so much I can’t NOT bring it up. I’m not some little skinny chic that has never known food addiction or slacked on the exercise. I’m currently attempting to lose the 20 lbs I put on over the last two years. I enjoy light jogging. Rich foods are good, for a treat, but I find my moods, and blood sugar, level out with lean meats, healthy fats and unprocessed carbs (i.e. rice, beans, potatoes, yams, salad, etc). So, most days, I try to make right decisions regarding. This ultimately effects how I feel about myself, resulting in how I treat my family and friends. The better I feel, the better I treat everyone around me.
Those are three essentials that help and make my life better. I would love to hear other’s essentials in their life. Things that are needed to for your households to run well and for you to feel your best.